Tuesday, 14 July 2020

8 Simple Things You Can Do To Boost Your Confidence

For many of us, a lack of confidence in ourselves creates a considerable barrier to achieving our potential and living our best life. I have been working on a few things, which so far have been helping me feel more confident.

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"Always remember that you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."― Christopher Robin

Personally, building confidence is a work in progress. Some days I feel like I "can do this" and others I would quite happily curl up in a ball and hide from the world.

As a side note, I also suffer from bouts of social anxiety, which does like to hamper my efforts as being a confident person somewhat!

8 simple things you can do to boost your confidence:

1. Give yourself a break

When my confidence is at it's lowest, my 'critical mind' sets in. I've written a separate post about ways to silence your inner critic if you might find that helpful.

I will continuously berate myself forgetting something or doing something. You guessed it. The more the self-criticism sets in, the lower your confidence gets.

That little bit of positive mental attitude and belief in yourself will go a long way if you let it.

2. Know your self-worth

Confidence is not just about what we are projecting out to the world. It's about how we feel about ourselves.

Creating positive routines and practising self-care will go along way to helping you feel good about yourself.

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3. Make a list of things that scare you

What are your fears? Is it rejection? Failure? Is it actually because you can't believe you got that job?

Is it actually, perhaps that you have a touch of imposter syndrome.

You know that feeling? Any minute someone is going to tap you on the arm and say what are you doing here?

You are there because you worked so hard, you put in the hours, and this is yours.

You got this!
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4. Surround yourself with positive people

Have a look around you. Who do you mix with?

If these people don't make you feel good, then are they the right people to be around?

Obviously, everyone has their 'off days', or be going through something you don't realise.

BUT if you always surround yourself with people who you know really don't deserve your time and energy.

Is it time to move away?

5. Preparation

What's that old saying? Fail to prepare, prepare to fail.

Just imagine in a job interview, if you've prepared, no matter how nervous you are, hopefully, once the conversation starts to flow, you'll start to recall what you have researched.

I often take notes in with me. I don't think I've ever had to refer to them, but it gives me that extra security blanket.

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6. Find what works for you

Gaining confidence is about finding what works for you.

My mum used to tell me to imagine people naked. I'm an over-thinker, so that didn't work for me. I could "see" all sorts of things that I really didn't want to see.

I found that by feeling more in control, I feel more confident. Whether this by planning or running through the scenario in your head beforehand.

I notice that my confidence takes a knock when other things go wrong. I suffer from IBS, and I find when that's not under control, I get really stressed just in case. This then has a knock-on effect on my anxiety.

7. Take baby steps and break tasks down

By taking small steps and breaking down tasks, we can make something daunting more manageable. I broke it down.

Last year when I wanted to go to yoga, but I didn't feel I could go alone. Dan came with me until I felt comfortable and then I went alone.

A few times recently I've reached out and I have not been rejected, which encourages me to continue to reach out.

8. Reward yourself

Celebrate your success and your journey.

No matter how small or insignificant you want to dismiss it as being, STOP and celebrate it.


What are your top tips for building confidence?

Lots of love,

Helen x



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16 comments

  1. Great post! It's definitely so important to reward yourself whenever you make progress as this motivates you to keep going :)

    Roni | myelevatedexistence.com

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    1. Yes, it is so important to reward yourself :) x

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  2. SMART goals can be good for breaking down steps to make them easier to achieve, and creating a healthy reward system is a good way to keep you motivated to moving forward

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    1. Yes, definitely. It can be so easy to neglect the importance of setting SMART goals x

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  3. Great tip! Confidence really has to start from within and everything will follow.

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    1. Aww yes, such a great way of looking at it x

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  4. Definitely think surrounding yourself with positive people is so important! I recently cut a fair amount of people out of my life who weren't what I needed and I feel so much better for it!

    Tash // A Girl with a View

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    1. Totally agree! That's amazing! Well done as it can be so hard to remove people x

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  5. Some fab tips here! I think giving yourself a break is so important. Sometimes it's less about being active and more about stepping back and taking care!

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    1. Definitely! It's amazing the benefits stepping back can bring, isn't it x

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  6. These are great suggestions! Boosting your confidence is so important. Breaking down big tasks is a great way to achieve them. Give yourself a break and rewards are also important too. Thank you for sharing.

    Lauren | www.bournemouthgirl.com

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    1. Aww thank you, Lauren. Totally agree x

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  7. These are great suggestions Helen! I should really work on my confidence more!

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  8. I love all these suggestions, and I'm been rather down on self-confidence lately, so feels like I was meant to read this list! One thing I might add is having a list handy of all the things you've achieved which might have seemed difficult to you at the beginning and yet you found a way to do it! It could be something as basic as figuring out how to build a Ikea TV console on your own (:P) to something that you conquered at work!

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    1. Thank you Shirsha! I hope you are feeling more confident :) That's an amazing idea about the list! It's too easy to mentally store our "failings" and forget our achievements, isn't it?! So having a list is an excellent reminder! x

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